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I'm Carlis Howze, a proud husband to the beautiful Catherine Howze. I created this blog to give an insight on our thoughts and occurrences through life experiences. We'll be sharing struggles, blessings, and lessons we've learned throughout life. Hope you enjoy.

Thursday, October 20, 2016

5 things a Christian woman shouldn't have to say to turn a man down

Sometimes it can be very challenging for Christian single men and women to connect with other single Christians. Women often have an idea in their minds of how they want a man to approach them. Whether it's by the skies opening up and a light from God shining down on "The One", or someone simply introducing a man to you. We so often have unrealistic expectations on this "encounter". In actuality it rarely, if at all, happens the way that we plan it to happen. God is such an awesome and creative creator. He thought are so often not like ours.

I'm a firm believer in God bringing someone across your path, and two people coming together organically by God. No shining lights, no skies opening, and nothing spooky spiritual; but 100% of God. Not saying that God can't open the skies and shine a light on someone; because at the end of the day he's still God. But let's align our expectations on the faith aspects in our lives, and not the physical.

I'm a happily married man now, but that process of singleness was not easy or clear cut...as you can probably see in one of my previous blog posts about me being single 7 years. I heard the processes that God took others on, and I was wondering if it was gonna happen with me the same way. It didn't.

In my time of singleness, I experienced a plethora of turn downs. Some harsh, some deep for no reason, and some funny. Most of the deep for no reason ones were funny. All of the examples I list either happened to me or someone else. But, here's my list of 3 things a Christian woman don't have to say to turn a man down:

1. Let's just be friends first, and see where it goes.

On the surface, you may say this is a great statement to make. Which is partially true. But when this statement is made just to give someone a false hope, it's better left unsaid. A person usually knows when they're feeling led to pursue something with someone or not. There's a peace about it. But you don't have to give this false hope, to turn a man down.

2. God didn't tell me you're the one.

First, I'd like to say it's not that deep. You don't have to make ourselves be deep when we don't have to. Many times we're either not attracted to someone, or they don't satisfy some desire we have. Whether they don't "look like money", have money, or they don't have the shape or figure that we want. When this person doesn't don't meet these things, that feeling that we call "God", is just some of our unmet expectations. It's not that deep. So, don't drown for nothing.

3. Let me pray about it.

Again, on the surface you may say this is a great statement to make. Which is partially true. But usually, you're not attracted to this person, but you're trying to create something so you don't "miss out on your blessing". Some would pose the question, "Do you have to be physically attracted to the person?" The answer is YES, if you want to be physically attracted to the person. Read that again if you didn't catch that. Many Christians now-a-days are seeking something so deep, that they'll miss the simplicity of how God is trying to work.

What ever happened to just saying, "I'm not interested"? No, that might be a little to regular for some of us. I say this to many people that I talk to about relationships, it is very rare that something extraordinary or super spiritual happens for people to get together. Can God literally tell someone that they're "The one"? Yes, but most of the time things are really REGULAR. But it's our responsibility to keep the standard of God at the forefront of the process.

We don't have to make super spiritual or rude statements to turn a man down that you aren't interested in. Just tell him you're not interested. Most guys should get the point. You also never have to tear a man down to turn him down either. We should still show the standard of God, even when we have to get firm with people. 

As long as you are hungering after God and you are focused on doing his will, you will never miss your blessing. God will give you peace concerning your mate, and it don't have to be that deep. You'll just feel peace about pursuing something with them. If we trust God to put it together, it will stay together.

Wednesday, August 24, 2016

A Christian Mans Wondering Eyes

Before you read this, please read the entire article so you can have a better understanding of the point of it all.

It's a general consensus that men are visual creatures. Men have the tendency to base many things by the looks of them; especially when it comes to women. It doesn't have be in a sexual sense, but sometimes men judge their approach by the appearance. I know this may sound mean or rude, but it's honest. It doesn't go for all men, but many men do fall under this category.

Before I was a follower of Christ, I was all about hooking up with "fine" woman. I didn't care too much about her personality, I just wanted to be with someone I was physically attracted to. Of course, I didn't want a "crazy" woman, but looks was about 80% of what I wanted in a woman. It was my main focus.

What is "fine"?

I had different categories of attractiveness. I had cute, pretty, fine, bad, and beautiful. Cute was when I thought someone was pretty that was too young for me. That was my way of saying, "If she was older, I would date her". If I called a woman Pretty, I was mainly referring to her having a pretty face or smile. If I called a woman Fine, I often referred to her having a nice shape (some men focus on certain areas of the shape); but didn't really pay much attention to her face. Shallow, I know. Just being honest on how the thought process was. When a woman was Bad, I thought she had a really pretty face, and a nice shape as well. But when I thought a woman was Beautiful, she had the pretty face, nice shape, and was also mentally attractive. I really don't think I've ever called a woman beautiful until I got married#HusbandPoints

I explained that for you to understand how many men think. And just because a man gives his life to God, that stuff doesn't just turn off. Please understand that. We still notice when a woman is physically attractive. But, now we have a greater responsibility. We have to learn to discipline our eyes, guard our hearts, and allow our perspective to mature and be more like Christ.


When we are of the world, we often think and carry ourselves in a reckless manner. We could stare a woman's butt down, and maybe even whistle at her. We don't really care about anything, but one thing. Sex. When our minds are renewed and Christ comes in, we have to be more mindful of the perspective that we have for our sisters. We grow out of the mindset of viewing woman as sex toys, and begin to view them with purity as God's daughters.

It takes a real conversion in Christ to even have the desire to mature from our old mindsets. And even when we have that desire to mature, it is very challenging. The culture that we live in can make it very hard for a man to be single eyed. Culture teaches, "The better your body looks, the more you show it off." While God is trying to teach us, "the better your body looks, the more mindful you should be about what you wear." Modesty.

Should a man look at a woman's butt when she walk by?

Being a man that tries to discipline his eyes, sometimes it still catches you off guard. To be honest, I actually see women checking other women out just as much as the guys lol. I'm sure you all have your reasons (or excuses lol) of why you do that and how "it's different", but any who.... Sometimes what a woman wears can catch a man off guard. Let's think about it.... If you are somewhere minding your own business, and a woman with more shapes than a kindergarten math class walks by with a shirt cut so low that it shows everything from her chest to her navel, and shorts so short that her booty is hanging out of them, it would be kind of hard not to initially notice that. Even if it's nasty, you'll still notice it.

On the flip side, sometimes it may not catch some men off guard, they just aren't disciplined in that area...and don't care to be disciplined. I would question this persons heart to please God. Honestly, some men don't try to be disrespectful, they just have trouble disciplining their eyes. Not making excuses for them! It's just the truth. It may be stemmed from lust in some cases, and other cases it could just stem from years of foolishness.

What do we do about it?!

We discipline ourselves. I really don't think we can help the first glance. Sometimes the things that men and women wear in this sex driven culture just catches our attention. But as Christians, we all have a responsibility to practice not entertaining lusts. I understand that we don't always look upon a person and want to have sex with them. But it's about avoiding the appearance of evil, or even entertaining thoughts that could lead to lust also.

It's important that we leave those movies and music alone that entertains our lustful fleshThe more we negotiate with our flesh, the higher the price will be to kill it. Those music and movies may seem like something small, but they are weights. And they will easily beset us. So lay those things aside.

Men, let's do our part by continuing to discipline our eyes. If that means not going to the gym until you are stronger, so be it. Because the devil know he be in there to tempt you. Let's also be mindful of others, and lead in the area of modesty. We can't complain about women being immodest, when we trying to show our bird chests off.

Women, let's not allow society to define our "fashion" or beauty. Understand that your worth is not in the number of likes and positive comments on social media. Your worth is defined by the One whom created you. Christ.

God bless you all.

Friday, August 12, 2016

My Church Leadership Offended Me!

I often have the chance to talk with different people that leave churches because they were let down by the pastor, they didn't feel welcomed by one of the ushers, or they just flat-out felt like the leadership shouldn't have done "that". While this may in fact be true, I want to give a perspective that we don't often think about.

Being a follower of Jesus Christ, it's important that we surround ourselves with likeminded people. While surrounding ourselves with other believers in fellowship, even those brothers or sister may offend or sin against us. But what happens when someone of leadership offends us, or sins against us? What do we do then? Do we just leave? Or do we just stay...and be bitter? I would say neither. There is two different issues that I just named, "Just leaving" or "Just staying and being bitter". If you "just leave" it is bound to follow to wherever you go next. And if you "just stay and be bitter", you will ultimately sow discord, bitterness, and gossip to everyone around you. Which will destroy everything. No one wants that.

Gods grace?

Leadership offending us seems to be a little different than a regular member offending us, huh? This is the person we learn from and spiritually respect, right? It is very important to remember that while a leader is in a position of authority, that does not mean that they are flawless or infallible. They are just as human as us, and every other person that needed Gods grace in the bible. Yes, I understand that he has a great impact in the lives of those that he ministers to, maybe even your life, but that does not mean that he will never mess up or miss the mark. It's unfair and unbiblical to have this train of thought. 

James 3:1 "Not many of you should become teachers, my fellow believers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly."

This explains to us how teachers of the Gospel will be judged more strictly in the day of judgment, but that still doesn't mean we should hold them to the "righteousness" of Jesus. There's a balance that we must have. Honestly, in the culture that we live in, the more involved a leader is, the greater the possibility of something happening that will offend someone. Doesn't have to be sin, could just be a character flaw or differentiation. And with that, sadly, familiarity could cause lack of respect in their leadership. And at the point, things could get a little more complicated. Am I saying that a leader should not hang around people that aren't leaders? Of course not lol. I'm saying that we must understand and have that balance.

Gotta have balance.

Sometimes it can be difficult for a Christian to understand the balance of a leaders humanness and their leadership. If offended, it would be natural to think that it must be us that did something wrong, when in actuality leaders aren't perfect. They can sin or make mistakes just like every other human on this earth. But hopefully, they don't want to practice sin nor want to have a negative impact in the lives of others. If so, I wouldn't believe that they're not a leader that God placed there. 

So, we ask ourselves how do we handle conflicts?

Matthew 18:15 "If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.

Leviticus 19:17-18 "You shall not hate your brother in your heart, but you shall reason with your neighbor, lest you incur sin because of him. You shall not take vengeance or bear a grudge against the sons of your own people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself, I am the Lord."

What really is the issue?

Take some time to re-evaluate the issue at hand. See what the issue really is. Is this issue really from what the leader did to us, or did it just trigger something in us from a past hurt? Reading Gods word and taking time to pray is really important in truly finding the root of the issue. Maybe you could write down what's making you upset, and pray on what you wrote down. Make sure that you aren't praying out of bitterness or spite, but sincerely praying for His will and clarity. Our focus must be on a solution, not just to build on and exploit the problem.

Don't let this dilute your relationship with God!

NEVER let a problem with a human disrupt your relationship with God. Just because a person in leadership, or anyone within the church body, does harm or wrong in your understanding, never blame God. It's probably not God nor the devil that is making this happen. It is probably the leader failing a test of temptation, or maybe it's just our perception...depending on the issue. But it is VERY important in this time to seek God for wisdom, humility, and right standing in order to address these issues. We literally need God to show us the direction, and give us peace and support in finding a solution to issues.


One other thing that we should also do is get guidance. Not guidance for a bias, messy, or gossiping friend, but guidance from someone whom you trust will sincerely want to help. This is also something that you must pray upon. 

Proverbs 20:18 "Prepare plans by consultation, and make war by wise guidance.

Proverbs 24:5-6 "A wise man is strong, and a man of knowledge increases power. For by wise guidance you will wage war, and in abundance of counselors there is victory.

Proverbs 11:14 "Where there is no guidance, the people fall, but in abundance of counselors there is victory.

One of the greatest benefits of receiving advice from someone else (that's not bias) is that it provides a different perspective. It can reveal things that you might not have thought about, and it also might even help you understand your perspective better. Advice is not a bad thing. But I'm sure one may ask, is seeking advice about an issue gossip? Gossip is a matter of the heart and the intent. If the intent of sharing the issues is to just vent, and show other people how wrong someone is, then thats gossip. But if the heart and intent is to sincerely try to come up with a way to solve the issue, it is not gossip. Just make sure that they person that you talk to isn't a gossiper.

Humility is important!!

Humility is the greatest approach. To anything! Especially issues. Humility, allows you to actually focus on the issue at hand, and not trying to prove your point to be right. Whenever a person approaches an issue in a prideful manner, that person is not open to understanding the truth regarding the issue. They will be stubborn in their ways, and they will never reach a solution that is contrary to their own thinking. Even if their thinking is wrong. We must give the benefit of the doubt; just as we would want someone to give to us.


Okay, let's look at it. You have gotten a better grip on the issue, got some godly advice from a reliable source, NOT GOSSIPED, spent some time with God, cooled your emotions off, humbled down, NOW, it's time to talk with the person that offended you.

Hopefully you are able to meet this person face to face, that's always better. Can be intimidating to some, but it is the best way to address issues. Of course, it's not always possible, but it is best. When you meet face to face, you may have wrote things down at home to bring up, but try to be as natural as you can. Be very honest, and try not to over or under-exaggerate. Be truthful and honest, in a humble spirit. Even if the other person isn't.

This talk is to bring understanding and unity, not to singlehandedly vent frustrations and prove how wrong one is. Be very gracious, loving, and ultimately forgiving. Don't let anger and wrath creep up on you while you explain your point of view. You want to always maintain the spirit of humility, and mind of understanding. This is achieved through listening, and being open to a different point of view. Being offended by anyone, especially leadership, isn't easy. But there is a way to approach an issue without causing strife or malice. Let's continue to seek God, and allow His perfect wisdom to lead us in our steps to address and move forward.

Hopefully the issue at hand gets resolved, and God gets the victory!

Friday, October 30, 2015

Why Halloween Isn't For Me

When I was a kid, there was nothing like some good ol' horror movies and being scared to go to sleep at night. I remember watching Chucky, and thinking everyone of my sister's baby dolls would become real when I closed my eyes. Horror movies terrified me, but it was like I didn't like it; but I liked it. Weird, I know!

There were other type scary movies that I watched also. These were the movies of people being demon possessed, making crazy faces, and things moving when no one was in the room. Now, those movies were the scariest ones to me; probably because they always talked about demons in church. These movies created me to have a fear of demons as a child. I believe that's one of the tricks that the devil wants to use for us as Christians to fear what we should have dominion over through the power of God. Nevertheless, I still watched them.

As a child, my mom was pretty protective over us. It wasn't a super crazy protective, but she was really protective over the things she allowed us to do. Sometimes she didn't like the thought of somethings, but we would cry so much that should would allow us to do them. SOMETIMES. When it came to Halloween, my mom didn't really want us to go trick-or-treating, but we would cry and tell her how all of our other friends would be going. But she still didn't let us go. She would tell us that it wasn't a day that we should celebrate. She also didn't want us to go walking through our neighborhood that late by ourselves. But after some time, she started to let us go with our cousins. after about 2 years later, that ended also. This is when we started to go to "trunk-or-treat" at church. It was supposed to be the alternative to trick-or-treating. My siblings and I thought it was lame. But they had free candy, so we went.

So, the question is, Why Not Celebrate Halloween?

Honestly, I don't have a deep answer for you. I just believe it's one of the most demonic days that one can celebrate. Of course, I did research the day in which it originated, but it didn't take that for me to see that this isn't a day that I should celebrate or participate in. It's the celebration of demons, witches, warlocks, false identity, and darkness. I'm a child of the light, no need to play in darkness (my version of Thessalonians 5:5). Many would say that it's just an innocent day, but I don't quite see it that way. There are many demonic things that happen on that day, that many people aren't even aware of. I believe the real danger of this day is more spiritual than physical. I choose to opt out. Many would say, "Doesn't the kids need an alternative?" Why do we need an alternative? Why do the church feel like it has to compete or stay relevant to the world on that day?

"Then what about Thanksgiving and Christmas?" What about them? Thanksgiving and Christmas isn't HALLOWEEN! People ask me this because they think I have an issue with "holidays". While I don't really care for holidays, I don't believe they all are as demonic as Halloween. Of course, here comes the pagan debates. But my issue isn't necessarily with holidays, but with the darkness of that holiday. I thank God for the convictions that he places in our spirit, because he's never wrong.

Halloween isn't for me. Not because it's pagan, but because it's demonic. I'd rather eat strawberry cheesecake.

Tuesday, August 18, 2015

Why Opposite Sex Friends are Never "Just Friends"

We have all had those friends of the opposite sex, that we considered "just friends". It was always very easy to hide feelings behind the title, but still be close to the person at the same time. We're "just friends" is what we would say. Now, don't get me wrong, there might be some people out there that feel they have opposite sex friends and never felt this way. But by the end of this blog, I want you to examine if you are really "just friends".

When we are younger in age, we don't really pay attention to the sex of a person when it comes to friendships. We just want someone to ride bikes, and play our toys with. Although our parents and their friends would say "how cute" we looked playing with them, we never really payed it any mind. We were just friends. But what happens when the innocence is gone? What happens we start to understand feelings, and begin to become attracted to a person? It's still cute and cuddly, but would you still be "just friends".

Knowledge brings about recognition. And whenever our view of something is even slightly distorted, our outlook on that thing will change. But, let me explain.

I've had many female friends that I was close to, but eventually one of us would have feelings for the other. Hold on, let's take a step back really quick. If you have an opposite sex friend from childhood, you probably still have the same mindset towards them as when you were a child; that's if your mindset about them wasn't distorted...or in other words, if neither one of you never caught feelings for one another. This is one of those rare cases that we could view each other as "just friends", and it be purely just that. But most of the time, if we are honest with ourselves, deep down inside we thought about "hooking up" with them. Or, we had the feeling that the other person was interested in us.

As stating earlier, I've had female friends that I was close to, but eventually one of us would catch feelings. Sometimes it wasn't anything planned, but it just happened. Other times I knew what I was doing, and I wanted to use that "just friends" or "my sister" title as an excuse to get closer to her; just to see if I could wiggle my way in the "friend zone". Because the guys know, once you're in the "friend zone" you're almost "there".   Ok, I may be breaking a man code right now.

Whenever you're on a consistent base friendship with someone (even the same sex), it builds feelings. Hints to why people become best friends. But, this consistency brings forth intimacy and ultimately ownership. I know you've either been around someone, or you've been that someone, that seen their best friend talking with someone else, and you were like, "Why are you talking to them? You're MY best friend!" That's because consistency and intimacy does that. But when its opposite sex, it does even more, because we were created to be attracted to the opposite in a different way. We hide feelings not to make things awkward. But secretly, we don't want them to get that girl/boyfriend. Because we secretly have feelings for them. We don't want them to get close to other guys/ladies, because that lessens our "chance" to have all their heart. I'm sure you've been there before.

On the contrary, we can really have pure motives and want to be "just friends" because the person is  "super cool". Then, down the line, we find out from other people that they think we're "cute". Then, as stated earlier, when knowledge is distorted the outlook will change. And unfortunately, the outlook is changed. But we don't want to say anything to make things difficult or awkward, so we try to make it seem like it's all good and we can still be "just friends"...because 

1. We like the attention anyway.
2. We had feelings for them too.
Or, 3. We don't want them to feel bad.

But whichever it may be, the motives aren't "just friends" for both parties anymore. Honestly, if you're mature enough minded, and single, it's almost obsolete that you will meet new people of the opposite sex and one of you not see the other as a potential.

On the other hand, we have people that we've already been intimate with. These are the relationships that didn't work out, but you both remained on good terms. You decided not to be in a relationship, but you thought that "just friends" would be ok. Things can never be "just friends", because you've already been intimate with the person. And because you've already been intimate with the person, you've expressed to each other that you're attracted to them in some way. You can't just turn that off.

I'm saying these things to say this:

Would you want your wife/husband to be close to someone that finds him/her attractive that way? Would you want your girlfriend/boyfriend to be close to someone that they have had close relations with, even it's in the name of "just friends"?
Would you want to lead someone on like you are interested in them, when you're really not. Would you want someone to lead you on in that way?
 (These are rhetorical questions)

If you're single and it comes to opposite sex friends, they're not always a good idea to be consistent with, unless you have purpose behind that consistency. If not, hope will be deferred on one end eventually. When you're in a relationship and it comes down to opposite sex friends, they're not a good idea to be consistent with. Someone is usually attracted to the other, and this has the potential to create serious complications down the road. It's ok to have people of the opposite sex that you know, but it's important that both sides of the relationship knows them; so it never seems like there are hidden motives. Be consistent with purpose.

Sunday, February 1, 2015

Walking by Faith

I believe one of the hardest things that a person can do is walk by faith. Walking by faith not only challenges our heart, but it challenges our belief. Do we really believe that "this" was God telling us to do this. Do we really trust God to see us through "this".

As many of us know, "faith is the substance of things hoped for, and the evidence of things unseen". Yes, most people that grew up in church (or around people that went to church), know that verse in the bible. But how many of us actually live by this faith that we claim to know so much about? Faith is not a destination, its a path. It's not a goal, it's a process. And in this process, we will have tests.


Yes. Tests are the very things that build our faith, and make the blessing at the end more worth it. But whenever we are more caught up into the blessing, we lose focus on the process; which is the most challenging part of the path. Tests never come to tear you down, kill you, or show you how much God isn't there for you. They actually prove how much God is there for you. They come to strengthen your faith, build character, and teach us lessons. 

We ask God for faith, but we just don't understand that there's a process to everything. We want a husband/wife, but there's a preparation process. We want patience, but there's irritating process. We want faith, but there's a sacrificial process. We must first be willing. We must be willing to go through the process, even if it requires us giving up something that we love dearly.


Once we start this walk of faith, it can be exciting and fun...until people you walk long enough to look around to see that everyone that were with you, are't with you anymore. We begin to go through things and don't really have anyone to talk to, because they just wouldn't understand. We want to give up. We want to drop the very mission that God has us on because things aren't as fun and exciting anymore. Those old places are calling our name again, and it would be so easy and convenient to turn back. But don't abort.


God has something so great in store for you, if you continue on this walk of faith. I know the very people that you trusted in this process is making things so difficult; but don't abort! Keep walking. God has you here for a purpose. It might not be recognizable right now, but keep walking. Keep trusting God on this faith walk, and you WILL reap if you don't faint.


Tuesday, January 27, 2015

I Found Out I Can't Make It On My Own

If anyone was ever like me, they grew up having to "make it happen". I was the oldest son, and my father counted on me to do most of everything around the house. My father was the oldest son also, so I believe he wanted me to learn a few things the way he had learned them. When my father was 6 years old, he told me that he used to stay home alone and watch his 2 older sisters. He would always share with me that he had a lot of responsibility at such a young age. My father said that these experiences and situations taught him many valuable lessons. So, I believe this had a lot to do with the responsibilities that he would give to me.

Like most guys, we love a challenge. We even love the thought of having more responsibility, because it makes us feel like more of a man. So when I was given certain tasks, I would be macho man and always want to do it alone. I didn't want to ask for help, and I felt like I didn't need no help. I would always figure out a way to do it on my own. This really challenged my brain sometimes, but I always seemed to figure it out. And when I would figure it out, I could see my dad would have that "good job son" look on his face. But he wasn't the type to always express it.

With me being able to always figure it out, I actually begin to feel like, I didn't need help. I got into the habit of just figuring things out when I was in a bind, so I wouldn't have to rely on anyone. This created pride issues in that area, because I didn't want people to think that I needed them. I didn't want them to think that I couldn't do it by myself; even if the job was bigger than me.

It's so funny how everything in our past will create us to having the mind like we have towards everything. I took the same mind-frame that I had growing up into my Christian walk as well. I would try to do everything on my own. Although this helped me be more disciplined in many areas, God also had to humble me to show me that He is ultimately in "control".

God showed me that It was bigger than me.

In my new Christian walk, I would be disciplined in what people would call the "main" sins. You know the smoking, drinking, having sex, and cursing. Yeah, I felt like I was a super Christian because I heard about everyone else struggling with those, and they weren't as much of a problem for me. I was a new, and I thought I would never have to struggle with anything. Ever. They didn't really address anything other than those sins at the church I was raised in, so I was as Christian as you could be, right?

God showed me that It's not in my power.

Then something crazy started to happen. I begin to have these dreams that many of us know as, "wet dreams". These are sexual dreams you have when a person can physically have a release. And I was having them. I would wake up like, "Ok, what just happened." But when they happened, I would be so convicted that I would cry out to God and say, "Why is this happening to me?" I felt so worthless, filthy, and unsaved that I questioned if God was even hearing my prayers.

I needed help!

I found out that I couldn't do this on my own. It was bigger than me. And I couldn't do it with my power or strength. I needed help. I needed Christ. And once I was able embraced that help didn't mean you're weak, I was able to be stronger. I was able to grow in humility, patience, and love.

Sometimes we go through things for Christ to show us that it's not about our strength or power. We have a habit of wanting to be in control; and once that control is taken away, we feel vulnerable. But that exactly what God wants from us. Vulnerability. Let's be vulnerable to His ability.